Tranquility, sounds like your husband belongs to shadowriders.net
I probably know who he is, i frequent that forum every day (patrick is a member there too).
Its not a 'not so nice' forum ... its an 'adult' forum for those with a thick skin and an open mind .... and a mindset that you wanna mod your bike. Once you get through the 'noob' hazing, which is sometimes pretty intense (hence the thick skin), those guys will bend over backwards to help you.